Why do we believe……that banning homosexual marriages strengthens or protects Christian marriages?
Many Christians suggested Proposition 8, which effectively bans homosexuals from marrying in California, is something that would strengthen or protect Christian marriages and families and if Proposition 8 was not passed, marriages, families and ultimately society would suffer.
I do not believe this is true.
If homosexuals are legally allowed to engage in civil unions and call these unions marriages by the U.S. government I do not think the overall state of Christianity, Christian marriages, Christian families, or the nation is inherently eroded or damaged.
If a homosexual couple lives next door to a Christian couple I do not think their presence magically degrades the quality of the Christian couple’s marriage.
I definitely do not think that their presence is neutral until their union is recognized as and called by the name of “marriage” by the state of California and then all of a sudden their presence begins to degrade Christian marriages and families.
Speak Faithfully Public Service Announcement: Dear fellow Christians, sexual minorities are just people. Married or unmarried, they do not contaminate their surroundings by broadcasting sin in some manner akin to radiation.
While this statement is intentionally over the top and ridiculous I think it represents a core belief inherent to some of the logic behind Prop 8, One of the most common arguments I have seen for Prop 8 is that if we allow homosexuals to marry, the overall state of marriages and families in the U.S. will suffer. This is never explained, argued for, or backed by any sort of research, but I have seen countless Christians nod their head in agreement and go along with it when such statements are put forward in churches and at rallies.
Is this what we really believe?
I think the real Christian agenda in backing Prop 8 had nothing to do with protecting marriage and everything to do with fighting homosexuality because many Christians believe it is a sin.
We need to check ourselves and think seriously about this issue.
First of all, why are we trying to fight this battle through the U.S. legal system. Do we truly desire a Christian theocracy where Christian morals and ethics are forced on everyone, regardless of their religion?
Secondly, why are we not pursuing this against all sinful behavior? For example, why are we not proposing a ban on pornography in California or amending the laws regarding divorce aimed at lowering divorce rates? Why are certain aspects of Christian morality being turned into battlegrounds. Is thinly veiled homophobia a greater motivation than anyone is acknowledging?
Closely related to this belief is the rather widespread notion that the Church is engaged in a cultural war against the homosexual community and other non-Christian communities (the ACLU, Obama, the “Blue states”, etc.) that Christians believe are secularizing our “Christian nation.”
We again, need to re-think this belief as our struggle is not against flesh and blood. Our struggle is not a holy culture war in the U.S. to fight back to some mythological Christian origin to the United States, and it is definitely not against other sinners.
If Christians truly desire to strengthen and protect Christian marriages and families we need not look outside our own walls to do this. We better serve Christian marriages (which fail 50% of the time) families (that are touched by all kinds of dysfunction) and congregations (which are rife with sexual sin, especially pornography) through taking seriously our own problems and working on them, not through trying to pass legislation in the U.S. legal system. It would have made more sense to me to take all the time, effort, and resources used to advocate for Prop 8 and instead offer free marriage counseling, increase awareness on addiction and recovery resources in the local church, and otherwise deal with the issues that are actually directly hurting congregations and families.
Passing legislation that really only applies to non-Christians is one of the most asinine ways to strengthen and protect Christian marriages and families.
If anyone disagrees with me and believes that Proposition 8 somehow strengthened or protected Christian marriages and families please post and explain your argument. I am fallible and I might just be failing to see what is plainly obvious to others.
This is basically the end of my post. However, while I am on the topic, I will continue with more of my thoughts on the issue(s) around it.
For the Record: I don’t believe homosexuality is a sin, I believe sexual minorities can be followers of Jesus, and how we read the Bible on this issue (and many others) is wrong. I discuss that at length starting here: (http://wp.me/pVYH7-nE).