In my University of Phoenix class on human sexuality I found the following table. It is gender stereotypes that were found to be common among thirty countries. I do not know how diverse the countries were, but it is interesting to note the differences.
Stereotypes of Males Stereotypes of Females
Active* Opinionated* Affectionate* Nervous
Adventurous Pleasure-seeking Appreciative Patient
Aggressive Precise* Cautious* Pleasant*
Arrogant Quick Changeable Prudish
Autocratic Rational Charming Self-pitying
Capable* Realistic* Complaining Sensitive*
Coarse Reckless Complicated* Sentimental*
Conceited Resourceful* Confused Sexy
Confident* Rigid Dependent Shy
Courageous Robust Dreamy Softhearted*
Cruel Sharp-witted* Emotional* Sophisticated*
Determined* Show-off Excitable Submissive
Disorderly Steady Fault-finding Suggestible
Enterprising Stern Fearful* Superstitious
Hardheaded* Stingy Fickle Talkative*
Individualistic Stolid Foolish Timid*
Inventive Tough* Forgiving Touchy
Loud* Unscrupulous Frivolous Unambitious
Obnoxious Fussy Understanding*
(These are also feminine but the tables broke)
First, I marked qualities that at first glance I thought described myself with an asterisk. From the results one can clearly see why I am frustrated by gender stereotypes. Apparently I am some kind of androgenous figure that doesn’t “fit” the patterns for acceptable male stereotypes or female stereotypes completely. Usually I have pretended to be things that I am not, and denied parts of who I am, to try and fit into someone else’s idea of what “being” a man was like and avoid ridicule and accusations of being a homosexual.
Second, how many Churches passively and actively encourage these stereotypes and baptize them with scripture? How many fruits of the spirit would be described as feminine? Would Jesus be rated as more feminine than masculine? Is this partly why men hate Church? Is Christianity perceived as a “feminizing?” Is this a problem with Christianity, or our stereotypes about gender? When women say they want a “Man’s man” does that mean they want a man who is very non-Christian in his characteristics?